Re: [求助] 爸爸剛過世，男友又變心……

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※ 引述《MiKaOy (米咖歐。Eternity)》之銘言： : 我現在真的不知道怎麼辦了，才來這裡po文， : 文章可能有點長，希望有人能給我建議。 : 我爸爸在上週四(12/17)傍晚過世了，猛爆性肝炎， : 過世之前，已經陷入昏迷一個多禮拜，花了大把鈔票， : 但是他到最後都沒有醒過來和我們說話…… : （唯一讓我們安心的，是他離開的時候表情很安祥） : 我媽說，其實這樣對我們來說也是一種解脫， : 我爸年輕的時候經商失敗，讓身為保證人的我媽背上一身債， : 讓我們家的經濟狀況陷入窘境， : 而此時又發現我爸有外遇，對方是開公司的合夥人， : 他們一起做了非常多傷害我媽、傷害我們的事，我爸也丟下了我們， : 在此就不贅述了，畢竟那都已經不重要了…… : 總之多年以後，我爸跟那個女人分開，加上沒有錢，就回到家裡來， : 一開始也經歷過很多掙扎，但在我們慢慢要重新接受之際， : 我爸又因為突然的疾病，在很短的時間內離開我們。 : 其實我真的非常難過，雖然他過去曾重重的傷害我們， : 但在我心裡，他一直是我最愛的父親， : 而如今我知道爸爸的離開，最難過的人是媽媽， : 為了讓媽媽好好吃飯，好好生活，我一直忍住心中無比的悲痛， : 告訴自己要當媽媽堅強的支柱（但其實我並沒有那麼堅強……） : 交往三年多的男友，在此時也成為我很重要的依靠， : 我們感情一直非常好，所有的人都認為我們結婚只是遲早的事， : 目前因為男友在台北唸研究所（112資工），所以我們是分隔兩地的狀態。 : 昨天男友莫名晚歸，又好幾個小時失聯，我心中就有很不好的預感。 : 結果，男友在凌晨一點打給我，在我的逼問之下，他哭著承認，他騙了我， : 他跟一個女生在一起，他很喜歡她，目前只進展到牽手； : 聽到的當下，我才知道「五雷轟頂」是怎樣的感覺， : 我男友過去在別人眼中的形象，一直都是個善良單純的好人， : 對我非常好，溫柔細心，我真的很愛他，曾經以為這輩子會就跟這個人走下去…… : 當他哭著對我說，他很愛我，不能沒有我，可是他很喜歡她，無法離開她； : 每一字，每一句，都像一把利刃，狠狠的一刀一刀，插在我的心上， : 我那時候覺得快呼吸不過來，花了很大的力氣忍住不哭，冷靜的聽他說的一字一句， : 她是他們系辦的助理，比他大兩歲，他被她的成熟深深吸引， : 她在112某文科系念夜間部，不像我們可以正常的念高中大學，所以他心疼她的一切。 : 他說，他們才剛開始一個禮拜，但是他已經好喜歡她，離不開她， : 我那時才知道，我們三年多的歲月算什麼，竟然比不上一個禮拜的感情， : 我的心好痛好痛，聽著他繼續說那些傷人的話， : 他說是因為我對他不夠溫柔，他覺得壓力很大， : 我沒有她的成熟，沒有她刻苦耐勞的奮發向上，也不像她能一直陪在他身邊。 : 他要我不要逼他做選擇，因為她也在逼他做選擇，他現在卻不知道該選誰， : 因為他知道，他們兩個不可能有結果，如果他要選擇結婚對象，那一定是我， : 只是他現在真的離不開她，要我給他時間…… : 我努力要自己保持冷靜，跟他說了好多真心話。 : 然後白天男友又打來，說剛和她講完電話，他們是真心喜歡對方， : 所以很捨不得對方，也感到非常的心痛，非常的難過， : 但是那個女生還是很成熟的對他說：「我決定讓你回到她身邊。」 : 聽到這句話我真的快崩潰，想著他們以為他們是誰？兩個人牽著手傷害我， : 結果我要在這裡，等著我男友來「選擇」嗎？ : 所以我要在這裡，感激那個女生「讓他回到我身邊」嗎？ : 我真的好亂，卻又不敢和任何朋友說，到現在還在為我男友維護形象，像個白痴， : 可是心好像越來越痛，痛到快要麻木，痛到不知道怎麼辦，我需要安慰，也需要建議。 : 今天是我爸的頭七，我還在不能接受我爸離開的悲痛中， : 我一直以來相信且深愛的男友，卻也在此刻背叛我，輸給一個禮拜的感情。 : 我好想知道為什麼，所有的事要同時這樣發生， : 我好希望這是一場很長的惡夢，等一下就會醒過來， : 我一直忍著不哭，可是，我真的越來越痛，不知道該怎麼辦了…… = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 小弟不才，說個真實故事給妳聽聽，或許，妳會比較看的開........ = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 一個夜深的日子裡，月亮潔白的月光，穿透窗戶，照到我的床上。我在幹嘛？我躺在床上，睜著眼睛，從睡夢中醒來快10年了.....日子過的好快阿.........剛剛睡夢中的夢境，好似真實的人生一幕一幕晃過我的眼前............... 彷彿間，我好像又回到了9年前那時的我...... 快10年了......已經過了快10年了阿.................. = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 2000/04/15，天氣：晴天，心情：歡樂 = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 哈哈，今天天氣不錯，等等要去接女朋友下課了，呵呵，等等去哪裡好勒？難得今天太陽暖呼呼的，天空又一片藍空，挖，去看海或者夕陽好像也不錯呴不知道女友要不要去？噹.....噹.......噹......噹........... 街上傳來許多人的嘻笑聲，又到了大學下課的時間了，座落在市區的大學裡，尤其又是具有夜市大學稱號的學府，下課時間，往往是許多學生的happy time 吃穿玩樂樣樣具備，絲毫不擔心沒有不能玩樂的地方。反而需要擔心的卻是要玩什麼？中餐、晚餐要吃什麼？哈，恐怕這是大多數人傷腦筋的問題！可是！我卻有一個鬼點子特多的女友。嘿嘿，每當我傷腦筋的時候，她總是能提出讓人驚豔的想法~~~~~ 這也是她最吸引我的地方!!!! \^++++++++++++^/ = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 2000/05/30 天氣：陰天心情：blue = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 今天我去榮總看爸爸了，也稍微和醫生談了一下。肺癌第三期，已經是末期了，確定無誤！！！由於老爸的肺癌屬於非腫瘤類型，所以沒法以開刀的方式切除因為癌細胞主要散佈在肺泡的間隙，難以處理，只能以化療的方式醫治.... 看著躺在床上的父親.....因為病魔的折磨，原本壯的像牛一樣的老爸... 如今也瘦到皮包骨了......唉....... 好心痛也好恨自己無能為力..... = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 2000/07/05 天氣：晴天心情：普通 = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 今天是女友回老家的第一天，好想她喔，一想到要分開兩個月實在有點不習慣，唉，可是因為老爸住院化療，家裡需要幫忙，自己也要料理生活費，實在需要打工，沒時間去看女友...... 好累阿....真的好累阿...擔心父親的病情.... 不過唯一值得高興的是，住起碼女友還會每天傳封簡訊來給我哈哈，我每天可是靠著這個精神糧食稱下去的勒不過一想到等等又要去加油站上班就有點無力.....Q_Q 加油阿，希望老爸的化療順利，女友也快快樂樂過日子！ = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 2000/09/25 天氣：晴天心情：想殺人 = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 我被甩了.....為什麼....為什麼她可以這麼狠心... 只憑一個"沒感覺了"，就可以把我甩了...為什麼........ 心好痛.....好痛好痛............... 好想好想大哭一場......可是卻哭不出來............... 想哭，卻沒有哭的勇氣，心好痛....但是卻已經感受不到痛的感覺..... 是麻痺了嗎？...........突然覺得好累好累..... 好想直接離開這個世界、這個身體...好想好想逃避這一切........ 好累....好痛......... = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 2000/10/01 天氣：陰時多雲心情：震驚？心痛？開心？唉..... = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 今天在街上遇到她了....只是她卻牽著另外一個男生的手...... 他們甜蜜的樣子....狠狠在我的心扉上面刺了一下突然間，我的心抽痛的很厲害.....為什麼？為什麼？一個偶遇....讓我明白了一切........ 原來，在我被甩以前.....妳已經和他有來往了是嗎？.... 分手才短短一個禮拜.......... 為什麼？是我做的不夠好嗎？是我不夠體貼嗎？是我不夠溫柔嗎？為什麼...................................................................... = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 2000/10/26 天氣：雨天心情：傷心、痛苦 = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 25號晚上11.30........父親過世了........... 母親哭的很厲害.......我跪在地上.....看著父親的臉...... 淚水....不自覺的流下來.................弟弟，在旁邊....一臉呆滯..... 怎麼辦？......父親走了......怎麼辦？......我該怎麼辦？....... 爸，你別走好嗎？我還需要你....家裡還需要你........... 我們都需要你阿.....爸.................. = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 說完了，小弟不才，只是想告訴妳，妳的遭遇，不是只有妳有過，別人，亦有過。或許妳會心痛，會慌張，但是，請記住，家人是你最好的支柱；時間，是妳最好的療傷劑。故事中的主角，他本身家庭狀況不是很好。他父親走的時候，母親已經高齡53歲了，家裡，還有沈重的幾百萬房貸，而他本身，卻連大學還沒畢業，弟弟則還在念高中家庭，頓時間少了經濟支柱。再加上主角本身等於是被變相的批腿情傷，痛失至親的傷痛，兩者雪上加霜、痛上加痛！快10年的日子....他也不是熬過來了？現在，主角雖然仍在半工半讀求學攻讀碩士，家庭仍然有負債的經濟壓力但是，他卻走出來了，或許過的不好，或許壓力仍然沈重但，天底下沒有絕對的事情。傷痛，可以是一時的，但，人活著，卻是一輩子的事！！傷痛雖然會伴隨妳一段時間，但終究會離妳而去。祝福妳，開心快樂。 -- 還不趕快推文!!!!! 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